TSHICC Marriage Retreat 2020

“Longevity: Building Marriages That Last a Lifetime”

Marriage Retreat Location:

Frederick Douglass High School

8000 Croom Road, Upper Marlboro, MD 20772

JOIN US FRIDAY, FEBRUARY 7 and SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 8 for our 2020 Marriage Retreat “Longevity: Building Marriages That Last a Lifetime”. Workshops, corporate sessions, men only and woman only sessions, a couples mixer, and more. Married couples and singles are encouraged to attend. Register below, on REALM, or by calling the church office at (301)599-0555. Church address: 8000 Croom Road, Upper Marlboro, MD.



WORKSHOPS PRESENTED (click each title for more information)

Listening is a skill that is mostly misunderstood… The Bible says in James 1:19 …Let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak…. There is so many ways we take in information.  Sometimes when speaking to your spouse you may feel like you just entered an alternative universe as one is speaking German and the other is speaking Greek. What happened? We have fallen into the trap of not listening to each other because we already know what the other is going to say or we have been together so long that we know what he/she is thinking… So we forget to listen…. We no longer hear what he/she is saying. Listening to an adult is like being held like a baby… To be listened to is to feel loved and appreciated. With understanding how to better listen to one another the couple will create a connection between each other that will strengthen their relationship and a loving home.

In this workshop, couples will discover that intimacy isn’t just physical sex; it’s psychological and emotional as well. It’s an expressive  and physical closeness that allows each of you to let your barriers down: something you may not be able to do with another living soul. When both spouses succumb to the rat race, whereby each person works and chases after numerous demands on their time on a daily basis, intimacy can easily be lost; unless conscious steps are taken to preserve it. You will learn principles for making time for intimacy and see the kind of love God the Father has given you both. This session is going to be COMPELLING!

This workshop is about what a married couple can do to ensure that their marriage will last. In this session, you will learn the first and most important issue in marriage is one of obedience to God and His Word. This is a principle that makes marriages work and it should be agreed upon before the marriage begins. God says in Amos 3:3, “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” In this session, we will discuss other principles that protect the longevity of a marriage; such as, the husband should obey God and love, honor, and protect his wife as he would his own body according to Ephesians 5:25-31. And the corresponding principle is that the wife should obey God and submit to her own husband “as unto the Lord” according to Ephesians 5:2. The marriage between a man and a woman is an image or likeness of the relationship between Christ and the church. Christ gave Himself for the church and He loves, honors, and protects her as His “bride” according to Revelation 19:7-9. Making a marriage last for a lifetime is something both must agree upon and make a priority. Couples whose marriages last, celebrate the commitment they have to each other. Come learn how to make your marriage last in this session.

In this workshop, you will learn that although there are plenty of long-lasting marriages, there are no perfect marriages. You will fight. Jesus said “…offences will come.” It’s human nature to disagree and to sometimes get heated about it. Just make sure to fight fair; don’t bring up the past and don’t go for the jugular. Learn how to speak your mind God’s way. Say your piece in the spirit of love. Don’t aim to hurt; and above all, don’t fight to win. You will learn ways to walk away from any battle with a compromised solution and where you will both take something positive away from it. You will learn how to pick your battles. You will also learn to take a deep breath before diving in to decide if the issue at hand is really worth the stress of fighting with someone you love. Come and learn to fight God’s way and win together!

In this workshop, you will learn that spouses in long-lasting marriages tend to share a passion for life as well as for each other. Couples will learn how passion heats things up in a good way. Couples will learn how to produce passion principles, which, in turn, promote feelings of pleasure, trust, and arousal—all good things for keeping a marriage going strong. Come and gain insight to keep the romance alive in your marriage. This session is rated “R” for rich information!

In this workshop, you will learn that you’re not just lovers, you’re best friends and there’s more to marriage than crisis, adversity, commitment, and passion. Life and love involve fun, too. You will learn how to make sure you share it with each other. You will learn how to take time to get away together occasionally to laugh, kick up your heels and do something that both of you really enjoy. But keep in mind that 24/7/365 togetherness can hamper a relationship, so, we will discuss how to honor one another’s space without losing togetherness.

In this workshop, you will learn that as a couple you’re a unit – a team. This means dealing with crisis and adversities together; there’s bound to be some in your marriage. You will learn how to keep others from driving a wedge between you and your spouse; including your respective parents. They are not part of your unit. They became outsiders the day you said, “I do.” Learn the best ways to keep others at a loving arm’s length; safely away from creating turmoil and stress in your marriage; including your best girlfriend. As a couple, your goal is to stand on your own two or four feet. In this session, you will learn how to avoid being spiritually, financially or emotionally dependent on anyone else. You will also learn how to depend on the Lord and each other through the storms of life.

In this workshop, you will learn that celebrating your sense of commitment means banishing the word “divorce,” not only from your vocabulary, but from your mind and spirit. Marriage is a never-ending union like the continuous circle of your wedding rings. You made a commitment to each other and that’s all there is to it. In this session, you will learn how to honor your commitment through the good times and the bad.

Every couple needs reminders of why they chose their spouse, why they actually got married, why they are still together! This workshop’s goal is to help you REKINDLE your original desire: “not live another day without you”.  It will help you REMEMBER on a Daily Basis the reason you said “yes, this is the one for me!” We will look at the ANOINTING you received on your wedding day.  It doesn’t matter where you were married. GOD WAS THERE! It is His institution: “…it is not good for man to be alone I will make him someone suitable for him…”;  and as revealed by Adam’s revelation (from God) “this is bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh; for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife..” The anointing you received empowered you as a couple.  The anointing you received will sustain you on your marriage journey. We will look into the significance of the bride’s and groom’s apparel as they begin a new chapter together.  Did you know that when you put on your Dress, Gown, Tux or Suit, it was an outward expression of your Faith, Hope, Desires, Dreams, Promise, Vision, and Destiny? Finally, we’ll look at: Why you are on this marriage journey? Why does this INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE exist at all? Come join this workshop as we discover, remember and rekindle why we are married.

This workshop is about gaining biblical wisdom regarding the meaning of forgiving each other and that it is more than taking a deep breath in the mirror after a difficult situation with your spouse. The Bible says in Colossians 3:13, “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” In this session, you will learn how to forgive each other regardless of the great and small offenses that will happen in a marriage. This session can help you  gain wisdom on how not to fight over these issues but to learn how to acknowledge that you fell in love with each other for many good reasons because both of you have strengths and weaknesses.

In this session, you will learn how to not take matters into your own hands but give them to God. Also, you will learn that forgiveness means that you don’t hang onto past baggage and past pain; but forgive your spouse as God in Christ has forgiven you! This session can help you to gain wisdom on how to be willing to let go of painful situations in your marriage. Wisdom will be shared on how to move forward in your lives with each other; how to accept your differences; and that you shouldn’t try to change your spouse, but embrace the Christ in your spouse!


Keith Battle

Friday Evening Only

Stacey Jordan

Saturday Men Only Session

Malissa Matthews

First Lady of The Shepherd’s House International Christian Church, Saturday Women Only Session

Peyton Gray

Pastor, 4 Him Covenant Church, Closing Session Speaker